KOMUNIKASI VERBAL DAN NON VERBAL DALAM JALINAN IKATAN COMMITTED RELATIONSHIP PADA PASANGAN GAY

Abstract

Abstract
This study focuses on verbal and non verbal
communication between gay couple in establishing
a committed relationship. The conflict consists of
internal conflict between the gay couple of different
nations and external conflict caused by stigm,
discrimination, and bullying is done by the
community. This study is a qualitative study using
data collection by conducting in-depth interviews
and observations of three gay couples. The results
showed that gay couples have a specific strategy in
maintaining a relationship commitment that
reflected through their verbal or nonverbal
communication that is tailored to the character of
their relationship. Emotional attachment that is
going on between the two gay couples could also be
a reason for them to maintain their intimacy
relationship. Conflict experienced by gay couples,
because of jealousy, possessive and aggressive
attitudes that dominate one partner, and the
presence of one partner's infidelity. While the
conflict that occurs as a result of a growing stigma
in the community, resulting in discrimination and
bullying, such as harassment, humiliation, and
violence experienced that same-sex couples.
Keywords: Gay, Verbal and Non Verbal
Communication, Committed Relationship.

Abstrak
Studi ini ingin melihat bagaimana komunikasi verbal
dan non-verbal terjadi dalam jalinan ikatan
committed relationship pasangan gay, dimana
ditemukan konflik internal pada pasangan beda
bangsa dan konflik eksternal akibat stigma,
diskriminasi dan bullying yang dipraktekkan
masyarakat. Penelitian kualitif ini dilaksanakan
dengan wawancara mendalam dan observasi
terhadap tiga pasangan gay. Hasil studi
menunjukkan bahwa untuk mempertahankan
hubungan, pasangan melakukan strategi khusus
dalam bentuk komunikasi verbal dan non-verbal
yang akan menunjukkan karakter hubungan
mereka. Ikatan emosi diantara pasangan gay
menjadi alasan mereka mempertahankan
hubungan intim. Konflik mereka terjadi karena
kecemburuan, sikap posesif, agresif, dan dan
ketidaksetiaan salah satu dari pasangan. Stigma
dari keluarga, masyarakat bahkan negara juga
mengakibatkan konflik pada pasangan karena
mereka mengalami berbagai bentuk penghinaan,
pelecehan maupun kekerasan.
Kata kunci: Gay, Komunikasi verbal dan non-verbal,
Committed Relationship